HOW TO BALANCE LIFE & WHY SELF CARE IS CRUCIAL
One of the biggest challenges of being an entrepreneur is having balance. I want to share with you how important it is to have that balance and what it will do for your business.
If you’ve listened to my recent How it Started, How it’s Going podcast episode (Find it HERE if you haven’t) with health coach Amber Romaniuk, you heard how important it is to have balance and remember to take time off of work to take care of yourself and how that investment will return itself to the success of your business.
As an entrepreneur, it is incredibly easy to believe you have to Go! Go! Go! Not to mention our society further encourages this mentality. If you want to be successful and make millions of dollars and have everything you want you must work 24/7 and More!
This is not realistic, and honestly it’s the opposite of what you should be doing with your business.
What you need to make a priority is your self care habits. When you take care of yourself, mentally, physically and emotionally, you’re giving yourself and your business your best chance. You’re going to be the best version of yourself and that is what your business needs. That is what your clients need.
It feels counter-productive, I know, because when you’re building something great and especially at the beginning - it’s new, exciting and terrifying - it’s hard to turn it off. You’ve got to though, you have to figure out the balance and be organized, intentional and strict with your time.
BALANCING YOUR PROFESSIONAL LIFE
When it comes to balancing your professional life you want to be highly organized and efficient. You’re an entrepreneur now and that means your time is everything and you can easily be swept up into working constantly.
The best way to do this is to map out your plan. In my previous blog, BEING AN ENTREPRENEUR & WHERE TO BEGIN, I shared how to plan out your goals by working in reverse. That same system will apply here and if you already have your goal planning completed this will be easy peasy.
If you haven’t already mapped out your goal planning, essentially you take your goals and break them down into what actions you need to complete in order to achieve these goals for the year, months, weeks and days.
Keep in mind that Rome wasn’t built in a day and you’re in this for the long haul - not the overnight success (which isn’t even a real thing).
When planning out your professional routines be sure to include some flex times. For example, as a real estate
agent, my job can be all over the place. I can have some last minute showings pop up at any time and I need to react quickly. In working with my business consultants, we’ve established a routine for me that works well for something like this. Every day from 4-7pm I keep it open for flex time. My flex time is available for last minute showings or networking events. Anything that may be last minute, but still important. This is also nice because if I have nothing scheduled during my flex time I’m able to work on other things for my business. Things that are not pressing or time sensitive matters (because those are scheduled in), but things like marketing, social media, blogs, podcasts, interviews, etc.
Whatever works best for you and your business - you’ll figure it out. Have the end goal in mind but be flexible on the journey getting there and this is no exception. You may have to take a couple of days or weeks trying different schedules out and finding what’s best for you - and that’s okay! We are after all entrepreneurs and this is not a one size fits all career.
Getting your professional schedule in order is going to be key in having time for your self care.
BALANCING YOUR PERSONAL LIFE
Now that we’ve organized our professional calendar, let’s take a look at the personal one and create a harmonious balance between the two.
I would say at least one hour a day is needed for self
A lot of successful entrepreneurs start their days off with a strong morning routine. This could look like waking up early, having a couple of hours to yourself and starting off with gratitude, meditation, manifestation, reading, affirmations, etc.
I would strongly encourage you to find a morning routine.
It’s sort of like breakfast being the most important meal of the day - your morning routine can have a huge impact on how your day and your mindset will be. If you could wake up and have gratitude and get motivated for your day, every day, why wouldn’t you, right???
Remember, you’re taking care of yourself. So many people, myself included, put ourselves last. We are the caretakers, the people pleasers and from what I’ve learned that’s nothing to brag about. Yes, it’s nice to be considerate, but you should never take care of others better than you take care of yourself.
Taking care of yourself affects your mindset. Your mentality is such a huge part of your life and your success. Something I’ve been working on and have been learning a lot about lately is to try talking to yourself the way you would talk to someone you love dearly. If you have a child, you love them, would you talk to them the way you talk to yourself? Are you constantly putting yourself down and harping on yourself to do better?
It’s important to push yourself, yes, but do you know how much more incredible and successful you would be if you practiced gratitude and positive reinforcement?
If you want to understand a bit more about what I’m saying and just how important it is that we talk to ourselves and treat ourselves with grace and kindness, do an internet search for Dr. Masaru Emoto’s water experiment.
His work proves that talking to yourself has an impact on you and how important it is to be positive.
In planning our professional schedules earlier, you should have left some time for self care because we aren’t working 24/7 remember? Earlier I mentioned morning meditations, and I find that’s an easy one because you are awake before most people are or at least before the work day starts and it’s easy to find solitude.
This is important - treat it as a non-negotiable. Treat your self care appointments as if it was a million dollar client, deal, or whatever you need to tell yourself to keep these appointments and get it in your head how important and necessary they are for the success you are looking for.
If you’re anything like I was a couple of years ago, I had no idea what self care was. I assumed going to get a massage or a mani/pedi was good enough. Nope. Not even close. Self care that’s going to change your life and your business looks more like meditation. Journaling, reading, doing things that you love (that don’t make you money) and taking time out of your crazy, busy life to make sure that you are taken care of - mind, body and soul - that’s the self care that will have a tremendous impact.
You will be amazed at the success you receive when you do these things. One week I was struggling to do my self care, but I was doing it! I was journaling one day about the gratitude that I had for my business, my clients and the incredible people I had met lately. To my surprise, at the end of my self care I went to check my phone and I had a new client reach out about listing their home.
I took it as a sign that yes, taking care of myself is the way to success and here I was being rewarded for taking care of myself.
How can you expect your business to grow and be the best that it can be when you’re not able to do that for yourself?
It’s like when the flight attendants tell you to put your oxygen mask on first before helping others. You’ve got to make sure that your cup is full and that you are taken care of first in order to help and serve others.
I hope this blog post has been insightful! I’m still on my own journey to incorporating self care and I’ve already received the benefits of taking care of myself.
Here is a list of some self care activities that I like to rotate between:
No electronics - shut them off or put them in airplane mode if using apps (audio books, Calm, Pandora, YouTube, etc.)
Mapping out and working through your emotions
The Calm app
The Tapping Solution (learn about this HERE).
Going for a walk
Playing a sport or activity you enjoy
Hobbies? What do you enjoy doing that doesn’t bring you money?
Singing or playing a musical instrument
Physical activity for fun - not for working out
If you practice self care and/or have a great work life balance, let me know in the comments what works best for you!